In this episode, Roy explores how the concept of “the one thing” can enhance working with teens and other young people. The notion of “the one thing” suggests that success can be found by applying greater focus and direction towards a singular goal or aspect of a person’s life. This idea has circulated in the popular consciousness for some time, including books on business and success like Gary Keller’s “The One Thing.” Roy encourages adults who interact with teens to devote themselves to learning what a teen’s greatest need or “one thing is” through mindfulness, attention, and presence.  Roy then suggests Gary Chapman’s “Five Love Languages” ( Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Quality Time) can be powerful tools for engaging, loving, and serving teens by recognizing and fulfilling their various needs.   To get Roy’s newest ebook “Little Book of Questions that Really Get Teens Talking” go to and sign up or email Roy at

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