In this week’s episode, Roy explores the differences between logical and relational consequences in disciplining teenagers. While both types of consequences modify behavior, one is ultimately destructive and leads to shame. This shame and its effects are deep and lasting and can result in emotionally and psychologically damaged teens. Roy explains the differences between healthy guilt and shame, which can deeply affect a young person’s sense of value and worth.  Roy then offers five tips for administering logical consequences and avoiding emotional and relational consequences. Roy’s tips help parents and other adults working with young people to be mindful of their own emotional states in light of a teen’s violation of trust and to lovingly yet effectively resolve the situation.

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